2020 was supposed to be our year. Our year quickly turned into a year of loss, trauma, and loneliness.

However, I don’t believe we should give all of the bad stuff the final say. Through tragedy, trauma, and loss, some people found themselves. They were able to get closer to God and tapped into passions that they could’ve never done if we didn’t have to sit still. I am one of those people.

I am blessed to say that 2020 still ended up being my year. As I am typing this post, I am in awe that I have a whole blog to share with you. While I can write about all the bad of 2020, today I chose to share the good with a 2020 year in review. Sometimes so many bad things happen that we are blind to the goodness that is actually happening in the midst of our storms.

Here are a few of my wins, some things I learned, and what I am hoping for in 2021.

Some of my 2020 wins.

• My friends and I returned to Texas from Mexico right before the world shut down. Whew! I could've gotten stuck or dealt with delays coming home, but everything was smooth sailing. 

• I got married in the middle of a panorama twice. My husband and I married in the living room on 4.12.20 (our original date) and then had the “big” wedding on 6.21.20.

• I started my blog. I am beyond thankful for every reader. I still can’t believe all of you tune in to the millennial “ratchet” girl from Beaumont, Tx.

• I launched My Diary of Prayers for women and men. My goal for this was to create something that could sew seeds into others’ lives. To anyone who purchased, I genuinely appreciate you. If you need more information on the journal or how to journal, check out my blog posts or email me.

• I created Ratchet and Righteous mugs. These mugs are the definition of how I see myself. I am a ratchet and righteous girl. I listen to Megan the Stallion and Maverick City Music. I am unapologetically myself while chasing after God’s own heart.

• I made it see another year of life. There are millions of people in this world who were unable to do this so I never want to glance over each day God grants me more life.

Things I learned in 2020.

• I need to stop expecting people to show up for you the way you show up for them.

• It’s okay for friendships to end. People outgrow each other, and nothing is wrong with that. Don’t let people guilt you because they are willing to pour from an empty cup, OR they are emptying everyone else’s.

• Boundaries aren’t a one-time implementation. Boundaries are challenging and require work, good intention, and assertiveness when enforcing them.

• Do it while you are afraid. I have 2020 wins because I did everything while I was afraid. You can hinder yourself by waiting for perfection. Learn as you go.

• Don’t listen to other opinions about marriage. Everyone’s dynamics are different. While marriage is about sacrifice and serving one another, if both spouses do these things, MARRIAGE IS FUN!

What is still pending for me?

Most of my friends and family know that I am not in the career of my dreams and this was another year that I did not find my dream job. It is also the year where I learned that for every job that I thought I wanted and was working towards, I no longer have an interest in. So as I enter 2021, I am navigating in a space where I can either find some type of passion in my career or find a career that is for me that doesn’t require me to start all the way over in college.

I am praying that I discover more as I continue blogging and influencing this upcoming year and hopefully many years to come.

I am challenging everyone in my life and since you are a reader, you are a part of my life, end 2020 with a list of 2020 highlights. This list should include your wins, things you learned, and what’s still pending for you.

Let me get a glimpse of your list in the comments.